Even if you’ve been with your spouse for a long time, there are plenty of things you can do to spice up your sex life (see my previous tip here or another thought here). However, you do not need to acquire expensive sex devices or contort your body to make things particularly streamy. All you need is a change in the way you and your companion normally interact. And what’s the best approach to go about it? Embracing some out-of-the-box roleplaying concepts.
Roleplaying is essentially a vacation from your daily lives that does not require you to leave your home. It can be an opportunity to rewrite your own sexual past, act out a long-held fantasy, or simply be sexual in a way that is not typical of your persona. If you can get beyond the first awkwardness, role playing could lead to the finest sex you’ve ever had.
And as a sex worker, I frequently get to undertake sensual role plays with my long-term customers, and I can guarantee you that indulging in erotic role play mindfully can accomplish much more than stoke the fire in your loins. The communication and trust necessary in surrendering one’s everyday self to explore within the confines of role play can strengthen connection and intimacy between partners. Furthermore, the sexual creativity, excitement, and intensity that comes with expressing and acting on role play ideas can spill over into other forms of encounters.
You and your companion must have a serious chat before engaging in any type of role play. That is when you negotiate roles, find similar interests, set boundaries, and establish soft and hard restrictions. Every component of the scene, as well as the parts you’ll be playing, must be agreed upon by both sides. Establish safe words or gestures that will pause or stop the scene, and make sure they are crystal clear.
This technique not only defines the roles and interactions of the sex scene you’re creating; it also fosters a sense of collaboration, which can enhance your connection and intimacy outside of the bedroom.
What follows after sex is referred to as “aftercare,” and it is a communal process as well. Aftercare can include evaluating the scene and what worked and didn’t work, as well as snuggling, nibbling, chilling, and making out, or whatever all parties agree helps them get back into their regular headspace.
It all sounds fantastic, but how can you come up with a good scenario? Here are a few ideas that are simple to implement and will guarantee your delight at the end. You don’t have to stick to a strict script: just do and say whatever seems comfortable and natural for the both of you. The goal is to have a good time and enjoy one other’s company in a new way.
Delivery on Demand
If you don’t feel like cooking tonight and want to try out a fresh role play idea, this is the scenario for you. Assume you order a meat lover’s pizza and believe you have a $20 money in your pocket. However, when the beautiful pizza delivery guy arrives, it is nowhere to be found. You ask if there’s any other way you can make it up to them, and… well, you get the point.
You are my source of inspiration.
Allow your partner to come into the room, undress, and pose as a model for you to indulge your artistic side. You faithfully draw, paint, or capture your newfound muse’s appearance in whichever way moves you as you stare upon them. I’ve performed this scenario a few times when I play the model and my spouse plays the naughty photographer. He frequently has a variety of costumes ready for me (mainly bikinis and beautiful lingerie) and asks me to change in front of him, which adds to the game’s intensity. Just make sure it transports you to your bedroom.
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Simply pretend you’ve never met your spouse before if you want a romantic fresh start. This form of role play can include a bar pick-up or an online hookup. Playing the role of a stranger or anonymous person allows for a creative exploration of sexual identity and interests. Before the date, send seductive emails to lay the groundwork for an amazing night. You must also utilize your seduction abilities to flirt with and explore your lover with new eyes.
Please teach me everything you know.
Even if you and your spouse have a lot of experience, play the parts of someone who is sexually naive and someone who has some specific ways to share. This scenario provides an opportunity to rewrite your sexual history and repeatedly recapture (or create) the thrilling thrill of first-time sex.
Cheaters can occasionally prosper.
Meet your spouse in an unusual setting, such as a hotel, and try to conceal yourself. Then you may have a great time pulling off your wig and sunglasses. This role-play scenario provides a sense of the forbidden and taboo while simulating a risky circumstance in which being caught could result in grave repercussions. I employed this strategy by scheduling dates in public places (not in the middle of the street, of course) where we could be caught. This adds a lot of adrenaline to the game.
Pleasure & Profit
One of you is a sex worker, and the other is the client who has hired this individual for the night. Place the cash on the nightstand and listen for the doorbell to ring. If you’re the sex worker, make a list of what’s available and what isn’t. If you are the client, describe what you want to happen. After you’ve finished negotiating, you can have purely transactional sex.
A Serious Exercise
We get why you’re flexing at the gym. You’re fixated on your trainer, who appears to be having a fantastic time making you sweat. Maybe it’s time to take a shower together.
Payment in Advance
The real estate agent who is showing you around a property you are considering purchasing is much prettier in person than you anticipated based on the profile image. There are plenty of beds available, so let’s see if you can seal the deal.
Please help me.
Many individuals appear to like the long-running role play about firefighters. Firefighters, after all, have a reputation for being beautiful and bold. Is there anything more romantic than someone literally saving your life or you putting your life in danger for someone?
These are only a few suggestions to get you started. Finding your own script is far more enjoyable than following the ideas of others. Consider your own fantasies, jobs that you find enticing, and write a short tale about it. If you enjoy dancing, you could be the attractive dance instructor who gives his partner a private session. If you enjoy providing massages (and are good at it), plan a small massage session that will undoubtedly include a “happy ending.” LOL
Remember that the goal is to provide and receive pleasure while maintaining the spark between you and your partner. Have fun with your experiments!